Ppl like to say looks dont matter larh...personality counts. Yayaya...even i say that, but come to think of it, do U and I really not matter that at all?
Yes, life is not fair. You cannot choose the kind of looks you want. But dun worry, there is always plastic surgery.
(haiya kidding larh, U noe that is not what I mean).
As much as I agree that first impression is important as that usually determines the possibility of future contacts, a person's true nature is ultimately going to burst thru sooner or later. A person cannot hide his personality for long as he will lose his patience to portray a persona that is not himself. It is tiring to act like someone that is just not you.
For me, as time goes, I cant hide my rather abit (or issit not abit?! ) short temper when occassion arises for me to show. It is just a natural, automatic reaction for me to feel irritated easily sometimes... ok...a new resolution for the coming new year- to control how I feel. Nah forget it I dont feel like changing...opps..ok I mean I will try... I feel especially irritated when ppl misunderstand my intentions. But one day when I dont even bother to feel irritated and to subsequently explain to you my real intentions, that is worse. I will just go completely silent. I will not talk to you AT ALL.
Back to topic,
Usually, to give others a good first impression, you might find urself behaving a somewat-not-like-you self. That is called self-monitoring in social situations.
I don't really fancy unfamiliar situations cos I cannot really be myself. But no choice, life will be full of such occassions eg parties, interviews, functions. Since cannot avoid, just got to get used to the uneasy feelings. Remember once my tutor in a theatre studies class say that if u have stage fright, get nervous infront of audience...den just go thru it...feel the nervousness. I dunno y I find his words especially enlightening. Maybe cos previously I will fear of the possibility of feeling nervous infront of a crowd. After what he says, I find myself more aware of the physiological responses in me and I just allow myself to go thru the reactions consciously and try to take control of them if possible. (sounds like bio-feedback system to me) Heart pounding, let it pound lor...hear it. Hands shaking, let them shake lor...see it. hahz..no larh of cos not like that...bio-feedback means to modify ur physiological reactions accordingly after being consciously aware of them.
First impression no doubt rests heavily on looks and mannerism, but thanks god who you really are is still the ultimate factor that can override a good first impression you failed to make on a date for example. So theres still hope. haz
So dont try too hard to make too good a first impression unless you can promise that U can maintain the standard until the end of time.
Monday, December 27, 2004
Tuesday, December 21, 2004
"Early Xmas & a Good New Year to come ! "
[A few days ago in the train, a chain of Xmas song came out of nowhere. When I turn around, I den realized that a group of teenage guys were walking through the train, singing "We wish U a Merry Xmas (X 3) and a Happy New Year!" They even shake hands with ppl that they pass while singing the song. hahz...so sweett...so funnyy..so daring. Many passengers smiled amusingly at them as they sing past. At first thot they are playing a dare or something. But ultimately believe they did it out of fun and perhaps also out of good intention to create a festive mood, at least in the MRT lar.;p Cute siaz...these young boys. haz.]
Christmas wishes? New Year resolution? Birthday wishes?
Familiar and popular questions annually asked in magazines, by friends and more often made as a routine task when the occassion arises.
We know very well that wishes and resolutions seldom come true. We sometimes even foget about what we had actually wished for. To me, some are only idealistic expectations and hopes, made out of superficial desires.
Nonetheless, ppl still do it, bearing the slightest chance that they may come true.
Nonetheless, as a routine work, I shall do it too, for the sake of doing it. ;p
Since all the 3 occassions are simply neighbours to each other, I shall just make them irrespective of the occassions.
The big picture:
I wish for world peace. (wah liew, so lame, you are not Miss Congeniality lehz!)
I wish for a fruitful, fulfilling and a truly happy 2005. (yeah rite..)
I wish for good health in my family members and friends. (boring...yet an impt one)
The smaller picture:
-I wish for my overall CAP score to be above 4.0 by the end of yr 2005. (go reach for the stars first lah)
-I wish to meet more good friends instead of acquaintances and hope that the present ties with my oldie friends can prove to be strong and ever lasting. (hopefully)
-I wish that I no longer have to countdown to the proposed year of going to S_U. (YW, HL, you know wat i mean rite.)
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- (dun be so greedy ! )
Resolutions:
-I want to achieve a disciplined healthy lifestyle- more fruits & vegetables, more water, regular exercise. (lets see manz...haz..but this is reali one of the ways to feel good and happy)
-I want to be more competent in my driving skills. (dont like to practise larh.. see how u gonna improve!)
-I want to think positively in all aspects of my life. (say very easy...)
-I want to be less fearful but more ready in accepting new things(ideas, challenges, people etc).
-I want to care less about what people think. (ppl who mind dun matter but beware that ppl who matter actuali mind!)
Difference btw wishes and resolutions: Wishes are those that one has limited control in while resolutions are more practical goals that one can has at least a certain control in.
May all dreams come true. A good year ahead for all!
Christmas wishes? New Year resolution? Birthday wishes?
Familiar and popular questions annually asked in magazines, by friends and more often made as a routine task when the occassion arises.
We know very well that wishes and resolutions seldom come true. We sometimes even foget about what we had actually wished for. To me, some are only idealistic expectations and hopes, made out of superficial desires.
Nonetheless, ppl still do it, bearing the slightest chance that they may come true.
Nonetheless, as a routine work, I shall do it too, for the sake of doing it. ;p
Since all the 3 occassions are simply neighbours to each other, I shall just make them irrespective of the occassions.
The big picture:
I wish for world peace. (wah liew, so lame, you are not Miss Congeniality lehz!)
I wish for a fruitful, fulfilling and a truly happy 2005. (yeah rite..)
I wish for good health in my family members and friends. (boring...yet an impt one)
The smaller picture:
-I wish for my overall CAP score to be above 4.0 by the end of yr 2005. (go reach for the stars first lah)
-I wish to meet more good friends instead of acquaintances and hope that the present ties with my oldie friends can prove to be strong and ever lasting. (hopefully)
-I wish that I no longer have to countdown to the proposed year of going to S_U. (YW, HL, you know wat i mean rite.)
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-
- (dun be so greedy ! )
Resolutions:
-I want to achieve a disciplined healthy lifestyle- more fruits & vegetables, more water, regular exercise. (lets see manz...haz..but this is reali one of the ways to feel good and happy)
-I want to be more competent in my driving skills. (dont like to practise larh.. see how u gonna improve!)
-I want to think positively in all aspects of my life. (say very easy...)
-I want to be less fearful but more ready in accepting new things(ideas, challenges, people etc).
-I want to care less about what people think. (ppl who mind dun matter but beware that ppl who matter actuali mind!)
Difference btw wishes and resolutions: Wishes are those that one has limited control in while resolutions are more practical goals that one can has at least a certain control in.
May all dreams come true. A good year ahead for all!
Friday, December 17, 2004
"Decision dilemmas"
Do you enjoy making decisions?
Well, whether you like it or not, you are doing so almost every minute of your waking life. So don't think you can avoid it simply bcos you dont like it or believe that you are incompetent in it, cos you are everyday practising it without even realising!
From choosing the time to set your alarm clock for the next morning, choosing the fastest route to get to ur destination to thinking of wat to eat for ur meal, your mind is actively processing, choosing what seems to be the best decision for you, sometimes even in the split of a second.
But why do we often find it so difficult and mind wreckin to make decisions? Bcos of external influences from friends and family, the different weightage in the pros and cons of alternatives, the possible consequences of actions etc. Another impt reason i think is the fear of regrets for the decision that has been made.
We just hate making decisions at times, don't we?
Sometimes it gets on my nerves so much that I hope there is a machine for me to press the different alternatives and help me calculate what works best for me. Or perhaps just by using a mathematical formula that can give me a straightforward exact answer with no ambiguity.
When people ask me to make unimpt decisions like where to eat or to do A or B first, as much as I don't like people to answer "anything", I do replied anything sometimes cos its rather bothersome to have to decide even on such things. So for those ppl who like to say 'anything', ok lar..I understand. (I used to be abit annoyed with such answers.) Its the feeling of really anything larh, can eat, have somewhere to go, something to do can already lor, just anything larh. But of cos it shldnt be too much until you are anything on even opinionated issues. Then you would be considered an apathetic soul.
Decisions dilemmas I think are most frequent during shopping trips. The conflict btw wasting money and perceiving the item as a worthy buy is often unavoidable for many economically challenged students like me. Ha. Looking at many of the clothes in my wardrobe, I am unpleasantly dismayed by some of the bad decisions I have made in the past! What actually was going thru my mind when I decided to buy that particular top? Oh manz. Something must be very wrong with me.
Some ppl like to toss coins to make decisions. You will never find me doing that btw. Why let chance make decisions for u? Anyway, that isnt the pt. What I want to say is that many of them actually do have already a decision in mind, but just wanna get some encouragement/reassurance from just any source. Thats why very often, those ppl even after seeing the coin result, still find themselves opposing it and following their heart ultimately. The process of coin tossing is merely a stepping stone to realizing what they actually want/desire, I thot.
Well, whether you like it or not, you are doing so almost every minute of your waking life. So don't think you can avoid it simply bcos you dont like it or believe that you are incompetent in it, cos you are everyday practising it without even realising!
From choosing the time to set your alarm clock for the next morning, choosing the fastest route to get to ur destination to thinking of wat to eat for ur meal, your mind is actively processing, choosing what seems to be the best decision for you, sometimes even in the split of a second.
But why do we often find it so difficult and mind wreckin to make decisions? Bcos of external influences from friends and family, the different weightage in the pros and cons of alternatives, the possible consequences of actions etc. Another impt reason i think is the fear of regrets for the decision that has been made.
We just hate making decisions at times, don't we?
Sometimes it gets on my nerves so much that I hope there is a machine for me to press the different alternatives and help me calculate what works best for me. Or perhaps just by using a mathematical formula that can give me a straightforward exact answer with no ambiguity.
When people ask me to make unimpt decisions like where to eat or to do A or B first, as much as I don't like people to answer "anything", I do replied anything sometimes cos its rather bothersome to have to decide even on such things. So for those ppl who like to say 'anything', ok lar..I understand. (I used to be abit annoyed with such answers.) Its the feeling of really anything larh, can eat, have somewhere to go, something to do can already lor, just anything larh. But of cos it shldnt be too much until you are anything on even opinionated issues. Then you would be considered an apathetic soul.
Decisions dilemmas I think are most frequent during shopping trips. The conflict btw wasting money and perceiving the item as a worthy buy is often unavoidable for many economically challenged students like me. Ha. Looking at many of the clothes in my wardrobe, I am unpleasantly dismayed by some of the bad decisions I have made in the past! What actually was going thru my mind when I decided to buy that particular top? Oh manz. Something must be very wrong with me.
Some ppl like to toss coins to make decisions. You will never find me doing that btw. Why let chance make decisions for u? Anyway, that isnt the pt. What I want to say is that many of them actually do have already a decision in mind, but just wanna get some encouragement/reassurance from just any source. Thats why very often, those ppl even after seeing the coin result, still find themselves opposing it and following their heart ultimately. The process of coin tossing is merely a stepping stone to realizing what they actually want/desire, I thot.
Saturday, December 04, 2004
"Speak with your heart"
I don't like straightforwardness. I am alright with frankness. I prefer honesty.
But actually, the dividing line between each domain is often an unclear one.
People being honest tend to be too straightfoward.
People being straightforward tend to be too frank.
I like people to be honest. But I don't like people being frank for the sake of being frank cos the intention is not at all helping, its meaningless. There is a difference.
Most people's expressions change into a sulky or uncomfortable one when u speak your mind abt them. Shld we therefore refrain from saying things that we know people don't like to hear and only say things that people like to hear? Is that a hypocrite? Or is that merely a form of social etiqutte?
Taufik (the Sg Idol) said b4, " I am actually quite afraid to be judged by ppl and hear ppl speak of my weaknesses and flaws but now that... "
I think this is true for many.
Most people don't like to hear things that they know they don't like to hear. When was the last time you actually go to a friend and tell him/her to state and perhaps elaborate on the flaws in your personality? People don't usually do that... cos they don't want to know. ((at the same time, u may b placing your fren in an awkward position also! cos its awaes harder to speak bad than good abt your fren!)) They know they will be affected by the negative comments in one way or another. They know they will feel uncomfortable hearing things that they find not true about themselves. Research findings show that if person A tells 8 positive things abt you and person B tells you 7 positive things but 1 negative thing abt you, you gonna like person A much more and focus very much on the 1 negative thing abt yourself and perhaps dwell in it. 1 Negative comment weigh heavier than 8 positive ones.
That is perhaps why some celebrities don't read entertainment news, in fear of reading hurtful stuff abt themselves.
It's ironic that
We dare to look at ourselves in the mirror everyday, yet not daring enough to see thru ourselves.
However,
This is perhaps what help us able to maintain a stable self-concept that have us surviving until now.
But actually, the dividing line between each domain is often an unclear one.
People being honest tend to be too straightfoward.
People being straightforward tend to be too frank.
I like people to be honest. But I don't like people being frank for the sake of being frank cos the intention is not at all helping, its meaningless. There is a difference.
Most people's expressions change into a sulky or uncomfortable one when u speak your mind abt them. Shld we therefore refrain from saying things that we know people don't like to hear and only say things that people like to hear? Is that a hypocrite? Or is that merely a form of social etiqutte?
Taufik (the Sg Idol) said b4, " I am actually quite afraid to be judged by ppl and hear ppl speak of my weaknesses and flaws but now that... "
I think this is true for many.
Most people don't like to hear things that they know they don't like to hear. When was the last time you actually go to a friend and tell him/her to state and perhaps elaborate on the flaws in your personality? People don't usually do that... cos they don't want to know. ((at the same time, u may b placing your fren in an awkward position also! cos its awaes harder to speak bad than good abt your fren!)) They know they will be affected by the negative comments in one way or another. They know they will feel uncomfortable hearing things that they find not true about themselves. Research findings show that if person A tells 8 positive things abt you and person B tells you 7 positive things but 1 negative thing abt you, you gonna like person A much more and focus very much on the 1 negative thing abt yourself and perhaps dwell in it. 1 Negative comment weigh heavier than 8 positive ones.
That is perhaps why some celebrities don't read entertainment news, in fear of reading hurtful stuff abt themselves.
It's ironic that
We dare to look at ourselves in the mirror everyday, yet not daring enough to see thru ourselves.
However,
This is perhaps what help us able to maintain a stable self-concept that have us surviving until now.
Saturday, November 27, 2004
"What say you? "
In my opinion, every person, yes you, should have a blog or a personal website. The reason is simple: I know you want to be heard.
You can say you don't like to be in the limelight. You can say you are a quiet person with not much things to talk about yourself. You can say you prefer to be the listener most of the time in a conversation anyway. You can say your life is boring. You can say you are not comfortable expressing in public. You can say.....the list goes on..
But I still believe that each and every single one of us needs and want to be heard, especially so in certain parts of our life.
Moreover, for things that are rather hard to relate personally to any soul in real life, for issues that are rather ridiculous to bring up in a normal life conversation, for topics that you have a passion for, online space is here for you. It's the place where people are "forced" to read your thoughts, where they have no way to interrupt, intrude or stop you halfway through.
But pls be careful not to let the web be the only medium for making your views, that would be disastrous! You know wat i mean.
In line with the main title of this blog, what I merely want to highlight is that each one of us has a voice within, a voice so soft yet so distinctively loud at the same time. Let it has a space to express, dun be lazy, dun be shy.
I will be hearing, I promise.
You can say you don't like to be in the limelight. You can say you are a quiet person with not much things to talk about yourself. You can say you prefer to be the listener most of the time in a conversation anyway. You can say your life is boring. You can say you are not comfortable expressing in public. You can say.....the list goes on..
But I still believe that each and every single one of us needs and want to be heard, especially so in certain parts of our life.
Moreover, for things that are rather hard to relate personally to any soul in real life, for issues that are rather ridiculous to bring up in a normal life conversation, for topics that you have a passion for, online space is here for you. It's the place where people are "forced" to read your thoughts, where they have no way to interrupt, intrude or stop you halfway through.
But pls be careful not to let the web be the only medium for making your views, that would be disastrous! You know wat i mean.
In line with the main title of this blog, what I merely want to highlight is that each one of us has a voice within, a voice so soft yet so distinctively loud at the same time. Let it has a space to express, dun be lazy, dun be shy.
I will be hearing, I promise.
Saturday, November 13, 2004
"Who say life is fair huh?"
While eating in the coffeeshop, my dad bumped into a foreign worker from India whom he had known previously and went to chat with him for awhile. He came back and asked me, "He is quite handsome rite?" ( ok..pls dun doubt my dad's sexual orientation)
Judging from his well-built body, masculine features tog with his deep-set eyes. I agreed and replied " Ya, he could have well survived in the Bollywood scene! What a waste!"
Life circumstances often don't allow ppl to choose their own paths. Only a few has the courage to get out of it. Everywhere in the world, people are tied to socio-economic factors and are stratified in the society. Is that fair or not?
Whenever I see young Pakistan or Bangladesh (etc) workers in the construction sites, sweeping the floors or washing dishes in the back scenes, I wondered whether they are happy doing such boring and unchallenging jobs. I'm sure if given the CHOICE, they WILL NOT want to lead such a life.
Besides,we have also heard of foreign workers who came all the way to Sg but only to get cheated by employers and stuff.
And not to forget ppl in the Third World countries, struggling with everyday lives.
Is it bcos they are born in a less developed country, poor family condition, they are therefore deemed to lead such a less than desirable life? Who don't want to be given the chance to excel and reach his greatest potential, succeed and lead a respectable life?
A word to evolutionary theory: Make them extinct pls if their existence in the world is only to suffer!!
If you ever despise foreign workers, note:
Never should we feel superior twds them. We are merely luckier than them. that's all!
Don't wait until aliens' attack one day then you start seeing other humans as belonging to one entity.
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Exams round the corner!
Judging from his well-built body, masculine features tog with his deep-set eyes. I agreed and replied " Ya, he could have well survived in the Bollywood scene! What a waste!"
Life circumstances often don't allow ppl to choose their own paths. Only a few has the courage to get out of it. Everywhere in the world, people are tied to socio-economic factors and are stratified in the society. Is that fair or not?
Whenever I see young Pakistan or Bangladesh (etc) workers in the construction sites, sweeping the floors or washing dishes in the back scenes, I wondered whether they are happy doing such boring and unchallenging jobs. I'm sure if given the CHOICE, they WILL NOT want to lead such a life.
Besides,we have also heard of foreign workers who came all the way to Sg but only to get cheated by employers and stuff.
And not to forget ppl in the Third World countries, struggling with everyday lives.
Is it bcos they are born in a less developed country, poor family condition, they are therefore deemed to lead such a less than desirable life? Who don't want to be given the chance to excel and reach his greatest potential, succeed and lead a respectable life?
A word to evolutionary theory: Make them extinct pls if their existence in the world is only to suffer!!
If you ever despise foreign workers, note:
Never should we feel superior twds them. We are merely luckier than them. that's all!
Don't wait until aliens' attack one day then you start seeing other humans as belonging to one entity.
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Exams round the corner!
Saturday, October 30, 2004
"The belief in otherness"
The power that religion has on people often amazes me to the extent that it scares me sometimes.
It is mystifying to know how some ppl can place such great faith in something that they can't SEE, FEEL and HEAR directly. It's BEWILDERING.
I ever tried searching for a religion to believe in. Through the past years, the only religion that I can gain easy access to is no doubt Christianity. I have been approached by quite a number of Christians in the streets and in school. My friends pulled me to church, in hope to convert me.
Unfortunately, I am still not internally convinced by the philosophies and theories proposed in any religion. How I wish there are more varities for me to choose from.(sound like i am going to market) I can't possibly believe in one for the sake of believing.
However, I still pray during my most hopeless moments. I must say I was very disappointed when the prayer din't work during a time when I most wanted it to come true. It kind of lose my faith partially. But I tried to think that things happen for a reason, most probably a good one. And perhaps "God loves her more than we do, that's why she has to leave."
There is such term called crisis religion. Religion coming into perspective only during a crisis. ha. quite true.
In my recent tutorial on religion, my tutor was surprised to know that there are quite a number of non-religious people in the class. He then asked what we do when we have problems. One student simply answers: " Solve it. " That was really a straightfwd answer and a typical one from an atheist.
Was joking with frens in school that I want to create a new religion. A religiion in which people believe in THEMSELVES, where the emphasis is on the self. Then they proposed that it might lead to the delusion of grandeur (feeling of being the greatest in the world). hahz.
Ultimately, God only helps those who help themselves first.
It is mystifying to know how some ppl can place such great faith in something that they can't SEE, FEEL and HEAR directly. It's BEWILDERING.
I ever tried searching for a religion to believe in. Through the past years, the only religion that I can gain easy access to is no doubt Christianity. I have been approached by quite a number of Christians in the streets and in school. My friends pulled me to church, in hope to convert me.
Unfortunately, I am still not internally convinced by the philosophies and theories proposed in any religion. How I wish there are more varities for me to choose from.(sound like i am going to market) I can't possibly believe in one for the sake of believing.
However, I still pray during my most hopeless moments. I must say I was very disappointed when the prayer din't work during a time when I most wanted it to come true. It kind of lose my faith partially. But I tried to think that things happen for a reason, most probably a good one. And perhaps "God loves her more than we do, that's why she has to leave."
There is such term called crisis religion. Religion coming into perspective only during a crisis. ha. quite true.
In my recent tutorial on religion, my tutor was surprised to know that there are quite a number of non-religious people in the class. He then asked what we do when we have problems. One student simply answers: " Solve it. " That was really a straightfwd answer and a typical one from an atheist.
Was joking with frens in school that I want to create a new religion. A religiion in which people believe in THEMSELVES, where the emphasis is on the self. Then they proposed that it might lead to the delusion of grandeur (feeling of being the greatest in the world). hahz.
Ultimately, God only helps those who help themselves first.
Sunday, October 24, 2004
" 'Mirroring' yourself.."
A hostile person lives in a hostile world.
A loving person lives in a loving world.
What you see in others is what you see in yourself.
-from Readers Digest
Take some time to think of the traits/characteristics you often seem to pay more attention to in others. Very likely, those will be the areas that you are particularly sensitive to with respect to yourself. Possibilities: It's either that the traits are already found in you or that you internally wish you can possess them.
True.
A loving person lives in a loving world.
What you see in others is what you see in yourself.
-from Readers Digest
Take some time to think of the traits/characteristics you often seem to pay more attention to in others. Very likely, those will be the areas that you are particularly sensitive to with respect to yourself. Possibilities: It's either that the traits are already found in you or that you internally wish you can possess them.
True.
Monday, October 18, 2004
"Discouraged......................................................"
"Those who matter don't mind.
Those who mind don't matter. "
(taken from groove's blogspot)
The harsh reality: Those who matter actually mind...!!!!!!!!!!!
What people think of me define my self concept.
What my family members think matters alot.
What they say hurt.
Cos I take it personally, very personally.
When I realize they fail to understand and believe in me.
They are the ones who can give me the GREATEST comfort yet
They are also the ones who can SHATTER me with their most tactless words.
Afterall, what I initially thot to be an inspiring verse is only an illusory theory hidden in the dark spot of reality..... :`(
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Those who mind don't matter. "
(taken from groove's blogspot)
The harsh reality: Those who matter actually mind...!!!!!!!!!!!
What people think of me define my self concept.
What my family members think matters alot.
What they say hurt.
Cos I take it personally, very personally.
When I realize they fail to understand and believe in me.
They are the ones who can give me the GREATEST comfort yet
They are also the ones who can SHATTER me with their most tactless words.
Afterall, what I initially thot to be an inspiring verse is only an illusory theory hidden in the dark spot of reality..... :`(
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Saturday, October 09, 2004
"Love is the toughest game to play."
Having say that doesnt mean that I am an experienced or a good player in the game. Being a spectator is often enough to see the overview of the game clearly without having myself involved.
Watching the game is fun. It's a passive yet exciting process at the same time. You don't have to do anything, not responsible for any consequences yet able to watch the dynamic interactions happening on field.
Being a player in the game is even more exciting and fun. You are actively involved. You feel an adrenaline rush to play well and succeed. You feel a totally different you on the field. You just want to be ur best. However the difference is that you will need to carry heavy responsibility for your own actions as how the game turns out to be is partially dependent on how you play it. Its a team effort not a solo play. Very often, you may need to pay a high price for it if you did not give your best shot as seldom there is second chance for the same game. Most of the time, you can only wait for another new game to try again.
I have seen and heard many players dejected after the game. They resign even having played for many years. Some admit defeat. Some are forced to back out. A few get fired for no reason.
Some survived, came out smiling and I congratulate them and smiled together. It's something to be happy for them, really.
For me, I don't see a reason to play the game. Well, I am not a competent player and I lack the skills to perform well. I never feel ready to play so why even want to play at all. Neither do i want to be a reserved player. I hate to be reserved. I rather have zero chance to play at all. Why should I be fitted into the game only when the team cant find any good players and just needed anyone to go in? Being a reserved is worse as you thought you get to play one day but never in the end. It is just a false hope hanging you in the air. Putting me on the reserve list while you search for ur potential players at the same time? Don't ever think of it! Go search for the best players straight away! Don't come looking for reserves just to be on the safe side. You are misleading them into becoming star players!
The bottomline is : If you want to play, play it well. If not, be like me. A spectator, as happy as can be................?????????????????????
Watching the game is fun. It's a passive yet exciting process at the same time. You don't have to do anything, not responsible for any consequences yet able to watch the dynamic interactions happening on field.
Being a player in the game is even more exciting and fun. You are actively involved. You feel an adrenaline rush to play well and succeed. You feel a totally different you on the field. You just want to be ur best. However the difference is that you will need to carry heavy responsibility for your own actions as how the game turns out to be is partially dependent on how you play it. Its a team effort not a solo play. Very often, you may need to pay a high price for it if you did not give your best shot as seldom there is second chance for the same game. Most of the time, you can only wait for another new game to try again.
I have seen and heard many players dejected after the game. They resign even having played for many years. Some admit defeat. Some are forced to back out. A few get fired for no reason.
Some survived, came out smiling and I congratulate them and smiled together. It's something to be happy for them, really.
For me, I don't see a reason to play the game. Well, I am not a competent player and I lack the skills to perform well. I never feel ready to play so why even want to play at all. Neither do i want to be a reserved player. I hate to be reserved. I rather have zero chance to play at all. Why should I be fitted into the game only when the team cant find any good players and just needed anyone to go in? Being a reserved is worse as you thought you get to play one day but never in the end. It is just a false hope hanging you in the air. Putting me on the reserve list while you search for ur potential players at the same time? Don't ever think of it! Go search for the best players straight away! Don't come looking for reserves just to be on the safe side. You are misleading them into becoming star players!
The bottomline is : If you want to play, play it well. If not, be like me. A spectator, as happy as can be................?????????????????????
Friday, October 01, 2004
Gossiping the Gossipers
I think humans just enjoy talking about other people. It's a joy. It's a pleasure.
It sparks off further dicussion, interaction and conversation among people.
I am not talking about judging people. Somehow, 'judging' this term takes on a more critical approach while gossiping on the other hand to me takes on a more relaxed and harmless stand. Thats what I feel.
Or is there no difference at all ??
It is rather engaging and fun to listen to gossips and I don't think it's just a women's thingy... rite?
Example of gossipy sentences: (for those who have never gossiped b4 in their life to get an idea of wat gossips sound like...are there any1 of u here? ;p)
Below are just some mix and match from what I've heard here and there and perhaps have engagaed myself in also...opss.
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" she lai tou bu xiao ok, she from RJC last time one leh... mai siao siao. but that time saw her smoking outside LT larh kinda disappointing to see lor "
" wah this guy when i saw him always like holding hands with different girl every time... or maybe its the girl who keep changing until i cannot recognize...dunno larh "
" ehh seee that guy in red, walking down the steps one, that one that one yar yarr, going to sit down that one... not bad right, i always bump into him one. last time in my tutorial one mah. can talk alot in class one leh."
" she always wear until very pretty to sch one rite...very confident in herself lor must be. her eyes so big when look at ppl like purposely want to fang dian like that. she looks like those type whose bf must be very rich if not much older than her.."
" wah this girl wear until like that, not scared her belly button catch cold meh? will get stomach ache after that one leh. "
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On the whole, they appear harmless isn't it? Well they are!
Actually, it depends on the intention and motivation of the person who says it at that point in time. Gossips are not always meant to be mean.
I am not pro-gossip. Neither am I anti. I prefer listening much more though. Getting more lazy to comment much nowadays.. unless the topic of interest really have me going.
What is most important is that the gossip said at that time shld end and not be carried forward to others and have it speculated menaciously if the content is undesirable. Have it among ur frens, laugh it off and forget abt it. It is harmless. Really. :>
It sparks off further dicussion, interaction and conversation among people.
I am not talking about judging people. Somehow, 'judging' this term takes on a more critical approach while gossiping on the other hand to me takes on a more relaxed and harmless stand. Thats what I feel.
Or is there no difference at all ??
It is rather engaging and fun to listen to gossips and I don't think it's just a women's thingy... rite?
Example of gossipy sentences: (for those who have never gossiped b4 in their life to get an idea of wat gossips sound like...are there any1 of u here? ;p)
Below are just some mix and match from what I've heard here and there and perhaps have engagaed myself in also...opss.
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" she lai tou bu xiao ok, she from RJC last time one leh... mai siao siao. but that time saw her smoking outside LT larh kinda disappointing to see lor "
" wah this guy when i saw him always like holding hands with different girl every time... or maybe its the girl who keep changing until i cannot recognize...dunno larh "
" ehh seee that guy in red, walking down the steps one, that one that one yar yarr, going to sit down that one... not bad right, i always bump into him one. last time in my tutorial one mah. can talk alot in class one leh."
" she always wear until very pretty to sch one rite...very confident in herself lor must be. her eyes so big when look at ppl like purposely want to fang dian like that. she looks like those type whose bf must be very rich if not much older than her.."
" wah this girl wear until like that, not scared her belly button catch cold meh? will get stomach ache after that one leh. "
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On the whole, they appear harmless isn't it? Well they are!
Actually, it depends on the intention and motivation of the person who says it at that point in time. Gossips are not always meant to be mean.
I am not pro-gossip. Neither am I anti. I prefer listening much more though. Getting more lazy to comment much nowadays.. unless the topic of interest really have me going.
What is most important is that the gossip said at that time shld end and not be carried forward to others and have it speculated menaciously if the content is undesirable. Have it among ur frens, laugh it off and forget abt it. It is harmless. Really. :>
Sunday, September 26, 2004
"I dont like to reminsce the past"
Just by looking at photographs or listening to just old songs can make me recollect memories of the past. Those memories recalled, though often are nice and pleasant ones, never fail to stir up contradictory emotions in me.
It don't have to be specific songs. It can be just oldie songs like those by The Carpenters which is enough to make me stone for a moment and recall good old days.
I don't like the feeling...at all. It can be overwhelming.
To me, the fact that one actually finds comfort from the past signifies that the kind of comfort is missing at present , that's why he seeks to find it through recollection of the past.
If you are already happy and contented now, why do u have to look back to the past and think of how good if time can go back to that certain period etc. It is bcos it is missing now, that is why you are missing it.
I especially don't like to look at photos of my childhood. The fact that I cannot go back to being a kid saddens me... I want to be a kid. As happy as a kid.
I don't like to look at photos of friends whom I have already lost contact with. It gives me the irony of how close we were back then and how distant we can now become. Some friends are not forever.
I don't like to look at the happy photos of my family and I in overseas tour back in my pri sch days. That is no doubt the happiest moment of my life given the worriless state of mind I was in and the luxury of time my parents have with me. Now everything has changed. Totally.
Thus, the process of looking thru photographs is a mixed feeling for me. I want to smile yet I felt restrained. Cos I know I can never go back to those times. It is like a smile on the face can't help being diminished into a blank expression...
To me,
Lookin fwd to the future is more self-fulfilling than looking at the past. Yet the future being an uncertainty often casts a gloomy hope on me. In the end, what I've found to be the comfortable cushion for me to fall back on was still what have been left behind...
It don't have to be specific songs. It can be just oldie songs like those by The Carpenters which is enough to make me stone for a moment and recall good old days.
I don't like the feeling...at all. It can be overwhelming.
To me, the fact that one actually finds comfort from the past signifies that the kind of comfort is missing at present , that's why he seeks to find it through recollection of the past.
If you are already happy and contented now, why do u have to look back to the past and think of how good if time can go back to that certain period etc. It is bcos it is missing now, that is why you are missing it.
I especially don't like to look at photos of my childhood. The fact that I cannot go back to being a kid saddens me... I want to be a kid. As happy as a kid.
I don't like to look at photos of friends whom I have already lost contact with. It gives me the irony of how close we were back then and how distant we can now become. Some friends are not forever.
I don't like to look at the happy photos of my family and I in overseas tour back in my pri sch days. That is no doubt the happiest moment of my life given the worriless state of mind I was in and the luxury of time my parents have with me. Now everything has changed. Totally.
Thus, the process of looking thru photographs is a mixed feeling for me. I want to smile yet I felt restrained. Cos I know I can never go back to those times. It is like a smile on the face can't help being diminished into a blank expression...
To me,
Lookin fwd to the future is more self-fulfilling than looking at the past. Yet the future being an uncertainty often casts a gloomy hope on me. In the end, what I've found to be the comfortable cushion for me to fall back on was still what have been left behind...
Tuesday, September 21, 2004
"Birds of a feather flock together"
Sometimes looking around the friends around me, I realize their similarity in them which is what bounds them to me. For a moment, I don't know whether to feel amazed or dismayed.
Amazed- It must be truly due to some form of essence inherent in us that forms our enduring friendships. Yes, I am thankful and grateful for that.
Dismayed- It seems to me that I can only click with people that are of the same freq as me. I ain't versatile afterall. My circle of friends is very restricted.
At times, I think I stop to understand ppl who are different from me. I just give up and step backwards. (I hope this does not hinder ppl who think they are diff from being frens with me, this is not what this blog intends to convey)
Through the past, I also realize that I have before a few conflicts and arguments with some of my good friends. Whenever such things happen to me, my immediate thought is to retreat and never want to have further interaction with the person anymore, in fear of bumping into similar cases again or thinking that the other party must have very much disliked me. With ref to the latter, it can be classified as pluralistic ignorance in social psy which means misjudging what others are thinking. (recall cases when you don't dare to ask a person out thinking that he/she probably does not have the reciprocal interest - cited from Myers)
I hereby like to sincerely thank those (u noe who u are) who have made a u-turn to come talk to me again after any form of unhappiness that had happened btw the two of us. May it be quarrels, conflicts or disagreements. Thank you pals for wanting me once again as your fren! Grateful.
For one thing I know, sometimes its truly bcos of being good frens thats y you have conflicts cos only good frens dare to speak their minds(though sometimes speak too loudly). Do u remember having conflicts with acquaintances? Seldom. Or perhaps you can't even remember as they are too insignificant.
I think as one grows up, he has to learn to change accordingly to adapt suitably. To simply say "I am just the way I am" can no longer fit into various social contexts.
Lastly, to have u to persist in coming to my blog is another comfort for me as I know fewer ppl will do so as times goes despite a rush of many onlookers at initial stage. Thanks to the "leftover" ppl! hahez.
P/S: Hey Karina, yoke and I have already started to miss your presence in Sg. I hope you DO NOT miss us as missing someone is not a good feeling and so I rather you not harbour that kind of feeling over there. Be strong.
Amazed- It must be truly due to some form of essence inherent in us that forms our enduring friendships. Yes, I am thankful and grateful for that.
Dismayed- It seems to me that I can only click with people that are of the same freq as me. I ain't versatile afterall. My circle of friends is very restricted.
At times, I think I stop to understand ppl who are different from me. I just give up and step backwards. (I hope this does not hinder ppl who think they are diff from being frens with me, this is not what this blog intends to convey)
Through the past, I also realize that I have before a few conflicts and arguments with some of my good friends. Whenever such things happen to me, my immediate thought is to retreat and never want to have further interaction with the person anymore, in fear of bumping into similar cases again or thinking that the other party must have very much disliked me. With ref to the latter, it can be classified as pluralistic ignorance in social psy which means misjudging what others are thinking. (recall cases when you don't dare to ask a person out thinking that he/she probably does not have the reciprocal interest - cited from Myers)
I hereby like to sincerely thank those (u noe who u are) who have made a u-turn to come talk to me again after any form of unhappiness that had happened btw the two of us. May it be quarrels, conflicts or disagreements. Thank you pals for wanting me once again as your fren! Grateful.
For one thing I know, sometimes its truly bcos of being good frens thats y you have conflicts cos only good frens dare to speak their minds(though sometimes speak too loudly). Do u remember having conflicts with acquaintances? Seldom. Or perhaps you can't even remember as they are too insignificant.
I think as one grows up, he has to learn to change accordingly to adapt suitably. To simply say "I am just the way I am" can no longer fit into various social contexts.
Lastly, to have u to persist in coming to my blog is another comfort for me as I know fewer ppl will do so as times goes despite a rush of many onlookers at initial stage. Thanks to the "leftover" ppl! hahez.
P/S: Hey Karina, yoke and I have already started to miss your presence in Sg. I hope you DO NOT miss us as missing someone is not a good feeling and so I rather you not harbour that kind of feeling over there. Be strong.
Tuesday, September 14, 2004
"Am I supposed to feel anything?"
My sister has been appearing in magazines for quite a number of times in recent months mostly for illustrations of topics related in those health and fitness sections.
Got friend ask me whether I am feeling proud that my own sister is a model and get to appear in magazines...
Another wonders whether I would have inferiority complex induced in me...
And here my dad asks me whether I am envying sis for all the seemingly glamorous pictures that she has been taking.
Interesting questions... more to come i suppose?
My answer is an absolute no for all the questions. Firstly, I am just glad for her that she has ongoing assignments in her modelling career. Glad is the word. Not to the extent of being proud.
Secondly, I don't feel inferior NOT bcos I am already very confident of myself but the fact that she and I are two independent variables that don't correlate so should not be judged on the same grounds. (ok.. i know we are biologically related.)
Yes, she is really much taller, much slimmer and much prettier than me. Infact, she is better than me in many other ways too. But so what...
There is no limits to comparison.
Lastly, for dad to ask me the qn must be his fear of me trying and hoping to follow her footsteps after I graduate. (For one thing, dad, I don't have what it takes to follow even if I want! so dun worry. )
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Got friend ask me whether I am feeling proud that my own sister is a model and get to appear in magazines...
Another wonders whether I would have inferiority complex induced in me...
And here my dad asks me whether I am envying sis for all the seemingly glamorous pictures that she has been taking.
Interesting questions... more to come i suppose?
My answer is an absolute no for all the questions. Firstly, I am just glad for her that she has ongoing assignments in her modelling career. Glad is the word. Not to the extent of being proud.
Secondly, I don't feel inferior NOT bcos I am already very confident of myself but the fact that she and I are two independent variables that don't correlate so should not be judged on the same grounds. (ok.. i know we are biologically related.)
Yes, she is really much taller, much slimmer and much prettier than me. Infact, she is better than me in many other ways too. But so what...
There is no limits to comparison.
Lastly, for dad to ask me the qn must be his fear of me trying and hoping to follow her footsteps after I graduate. (For one thing, dad, I don't have what it takes to follow even if I want! so dun worry. )
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Sunday, September 05, 2004
"I want to be Singapore Idol !! "
ok you, yes you, stop laughing there, I heard you k. ;p
Well cmon, don't most of us, if not, some of us have more or less a little performing desire in us? I am sure you have! If not for the lack of talent or the lack of courage, think all of us can be super stars already! hehe. haiz for me, I lack both larh thats y I am still sitting here fantasizing. ;<
I like Candice in the most recent episode! the one who sang 'If I aint got you' by Alicia Keys! oh manz she sang so well, even better than alicia keys! (ops, exaggerated k.)
Immensely inspired by her singing and charisma on stage, i excitedly went ahead to print the lyrics and tried to sing the song with as much passion I feel for this song. Yes i do love this song!
but after doing so, oh manz am i utterly disappointed in my super low-power voice! I cant carry out the song at all!!! Y am i not born with a diva's voice!! I think I sound more like a loser in the making! haizz... God is unkind... (I am joking k, God)
To think I was even hoping that i might be able to sing as well as her, I must be reali out of my mind.(somebody, help me!)
Anyway the point here isnt to annouce to you that I am having this watsoever idol dream k.hee. I am someone who know my limitations.
some other sentiments to share after watching the Singapore Idol...
I wonder is it better to be judged by others or to judge others. Having the status of being judged by others very often implies that you have some market value which make u worthy to be evaluated by others but it often can only put you in a powerless position.That certainly applies to well known ppl in the entertainment industry and also in this Singapore Idol context.
Judging others on the other hand is alot easier. Anybody can join in the fun. Just open your mouth and speak your mind, no logic got logic nobody can stop u cos its your own perspective that matters.
Sad to say, ppl sometimes or very often like to take on a cynical and over-critical approach in judging others.
We are constantly judging people around us every min of our life, consciously or unconsciously. It's effortless isnt it?
But at the same time, we too are targets of being judged by others based on wat we are doing every min of our life. It's tiring isnt it?
See no evil. Hear no evil. Say no evil.
Well cmon, don't most of us, if not, some of us have more or less a little performing desire in us? I am sure you have! If not for the lack of talent or the lack of courage, think all of us can be super stars already! hehe. haiz for me, I lack both larh thats y I am still sitting here fantasizing. ;<
I like Candice in the most recent episode! the one who sang 'If I aint got you' by Alicia Keys! oh manz she sang so well, even better than alicia keys! (ops, exaggerated k.)
Immensely inspired by her singing and charisma on stage, i excitedly went ahead to print the lyrics and tried to sing the song with as much passion I feel for this song. Yes i do love this song!
but after doing so, oh manz am i utterly disappointed in my super low-power voice! I cant carry out the song at all!!! Y am i not born with a diva's voice!! I think I sound more like a loser in the making! haizz... God is unkind... (I am joking k, God)
To think I was even hoping that i might be able to sing as well as her, I must be reali out of my mind.(somebody, help me!)
Anyway the point here isnt to annouce to you that I am having this watsoever idol dream k.hee. I am someone who know my limitations.
some other sentiments to share after watching the Singapore Idol...
I wonder is it better to be judged by others or to judge others. Having the status of being judged by others very often implies that you have some market value which make u worthy to be evaluated by others but it often can only put you in a powerless position.That certainly applies to well known ppl in the entertainment industry and also in this Singapore Idol context.
Judging others on the other hand is alot easier. Anybody can join in the fun. Just open your mouth and speak your mind, no logic got logic nobody can stop u cos its your own perspective that matters.
Sad to say, ppl sometimes or very often like to take on a cynical and over-critical approach in judging others.
We are constantly judging people around us every min of our life, consciously or unconsciously. It's effortless isnt it?
But at the same time, we too are targets of being judged by others based on wat we are doing every min of our life. It's tiring isnt it?
See no evil. Hear no evil. Say no evil.
Thursday, September 02, 2004
"The curse of knowledge"
My mother ask me recently whether its better to know more than to know less. I thought the answer was obvious. Knowledge is invaluable so of cos it only helps by knowing more I assume. She then continued to say that at times it fears her to know too much abt something for instance, health issues frequently discussed in forums or newspaper. Knowing more can make one overly conscious abt the subject matter and therefore triggers unnecessary anxiety like never before. As much as one can take safety precautions after knowing more, it sometimes just merely serve as dark clouds in the mind, she claims. No wonder some say 'Ignorance is bliss'.
But to me, knowing more is always better than knowing less. In many instances, you can choose to pretend not to know something for something that you know. On the contrary, it is harder to pretend to know something for something that you have no inkling about.
'Knowledge itself is empowering'.
As having told some of u before, my sister once said to me that her major in sociology changes her life tremendously. It provides her with new inspiring perspectives on various social issues like never before. Especially on homosexuality, gender equality and the meaning of living life itself. In view of the 3 aspects aforementioned, my sis has displayed extreme attitudes for her own beliefs in each of that. I can see this is also particularly why she often can come up with grand theories abt her actions, thoughts and behaviour in rebuttal of my parents' objections towards what she is doing all these while. In a moment of anger, my mum once said education ruined her, shaping her into wat she ought not to be.
I certainly don't wish to agree with that.
It is merely a blessing in disguise. Things can be worse. It is not even bad now.
But to me, knowing more is always better than knowing less. In many instances, you can choose to pretend not to know something for something that you know. On the contrary, it is harder to pretend to know something for something that you have no inkling about.
'Knowledge itself is empowering'.
As having told some of u before, my sister once said to me that her major in sociology changes her life tremendously. It provides her with new inspiring perspectives on various social issues like never before. Especially on homosexuality, gender equality and the meaning of living life itself. In view of the 3 aspects aforementioned, my sis has displayed extreme attitudes for her own beliefs in each of that. I can see this is also particularly why she often can come up with grand theories abt her actions, thoughts and behaviour in rebuttal of my parents' objections towards what she is doing all these while. In a moment of anger, my mum once said education ruined her, shaping her into wat she ought not to be.
I certainly don't wish to agree with that.
It is merely a blessing in disguise. Things can be worse. It is not even bad now.
Sunday, August 29, 2004
~~~"LeT's GeT LoUd!"~~~
Attended the annual Womad music festival with Karina, Youhao and friends as heavily recommended by Youhao since last year so thought of giving it a try to see what this world class event at fort canning park is all about.
Was expecting a semi formal kind of setting with some chairs at least for audiences but I was wrong. Its realli just a relaxed outdoor form of live band concerts at 2 different stages where you can sit on the grass or stand infront to groove with the music. hahz. futhermore, the atmosphere is enhanced by the presence of many foreigners.
was rather in a wrong mood and dress code and shoes thats y rather stiff and get warmed up kinda slowly. But on the whole its a great exposure to the different genre of music and instrumentation from all over the world. Its a good event to chill out in the weekend after a week's toil.
oh yar must reali thank youhao for driving us home after that though he was rather an impatient driver on the road. opsss..hahz.
was surprised to hear him say that he hates driving actually. hmmm..to think he got his driving license not more than a year only.
well at least he is better than me, gotten so familiarized with driving already.admire other frens too like wanni and yj who get to drive to sch or for errands so conveniently. i think i aint confident to drive manual anymore, can only drive auto...die. somebody help me! lend me ur manual car to practice! but any damage dun find me!
Was expecting a semi formal kind of setting with some chairs at least for audiences but I was wrong. Its realli just a relaxed outdoor form of live band concerts at 2 different stages where you can sit on the grass or stand infront to groove with the music. hahz. futhermore, the atmosphere is enhanced by the presence of many foreigners.
was rather in a wrong mood and dress code and shoes thats y rather stiff and get warmed up kinda slowly. But on the whole its a great exposure to the different genre of music and instrumentation from all over the world. Its a good event to chill out in the weekend after a week's toil.
oh yar must reali thank youhao for driving us home after that though he was rather an impatient driver on the road. opsss..hahz.
was surprised to hear him say that he hates driving actually. hmmm..to think he got his driving license not more than a year only.
well at least he is better than me, gotten so familiarized with driving already.admire other frens too like wanni and yj who get to drive to sch or for errands so conveniently. i think i aint confident to drive manual anymore, can only drive auto...die. somebody help me! lend me ur manual car to practice! but any damage dun find me!
Monday, August 23, 2004
" to work or not to work..that is ur choice." ( read: so y complain)
came back from my weekly part time work again so have some thots in mind..
wheneva being mistreated by unreasonable strangers out of nowhere as if from the wildlife, first thot usually pops up in my mind: why shld i subject myself to such treatment?!
but at least one thing i feel is that this part time job allows me to taste doses of ppl from various walks of life as it involves interaction with the common ppl outside my circle of life. it also enables me to see the ugly sides of singaporeans like being overly critical on the free gifts that we give them...can even purposely say loudly to her fren infront of me. or throw back the free gift when they dun like. so rude. so uncultured. parents last time never teach them properly issit.
just feel like telling them right in their face: if dun like,den dun come and take lar. why so cheapskate come and take free gifts in the first place! take alreadi still complain.
now i undstd y some of my colleagues dare to talk back to customers. they cant help not teaching rude customers a lesson. i still am keeping my cool cos only workin part time. lets see..
another thing i have derived. salesman realli know how to talk and reali attached with a glib tongue from wat i have observed from my fellow working partners. if i do know them outside work, i dun think i wld trust wat they say also. some of them are jovial, humorous, nice and all but i do not know when they are serious and joking. ok larh maybe i stupid but thats not the pt ok. ha.
in conclusion, i will hope to remind myself never shld i be taken in by sales talk in future again when i go shopping and also to refrain myself from falling in love with a saleman as to me, their words cannot be trusted.
wheneva being mistreated by unreasonable strangers out of nowhere as if from the wildlife, first thot usually pops up in my mind: why shld i subject myself to such treatment?!
but at least one thing i feel is that this part time job allows me to taste doses of ppl from various walks of life as it involves interaction with the common ppl outside my circle of life. it also enables me to see the ugly sides of singaporeans like being overly critical on the free gifts that we give them...can even purposely say loudly to her fren infront of me. or throw back the free gift when they dun like. so rude. so uncultured. parents last time never teach them properly issit.
just feel like telling them right in their face: if dun like,den dun come and take lar. why so cheapskate come and take free gifts in the first place! take alreadi still complain.
now i undstd y some of my colleagues dare to talk back to customers. they cant help not teaching rude customers a lesson. i still am keeping my cool cos only workin part time. lets see..
another thing i have derived. salesman realli know how to talk and reali attached with a glib tongue from wat i have observed from my fellow working partners. if i do know them outside work, i dun think i wld trust wat they say also. some of them are jovial, humorous, nice and all but i do not know when they are serious and joking. ok larh maybe i stupid but thats not the pt ok. ha.
in conclusion, i will hope to remind myself never shld i be taken in by sales talk in future again when i go shopping and also to refrain myself from falling in love with a saleman as to me, their words cannot be trusted.
Sunday, August 22, 2004
WeLcUm!!
firstly, thanks for having the slightest interest to pop into my blog.
Well actuali in the first place I had never fancy the idea of writing down my stuff on the net for everyone to read due to..
Cos if I reali want to write, I can write alot. (Read: I doubt anyone has the patience and interest to go read it)
Cos if I reali would like to write, I would be writing things that i really feel for and seeing the need to express it in words rather than speech. (Read: In this case, it most prob is things REALI not meant for you to know)
Cos if I am setting up a blog, I shld have ppl regularly come back to visit here. (Read: I don't think I would have time to update much to interest people to revisit.)
In spite of the above, my curiosity in exploring how things might turn out not the way i expect still propels me to give a try in this online sort of diary. So that explains why u get to come to this blog!
Oh well, thanks for reading till the end of this manz.(Or did u just happen to skip to here?hmm...)
Greatly appreciated. hehz. U have just passed my first Patience Test. U are now obliged to sign up as a regular visitor of my blog. hee
Well actuali in the first place I had never fancy the idea of writing down my stuff on the net for everyone to read due to..
Cos if I reali want to write, I can write alot. (Read: I doubt anyone has the patience and interest to go read it)
Cos if I reali would like to write, I would be writing things that i really feel for and seeing the need to express it in words rather than speech. (Read: In this case, it most prob is things REALI not meant for you to know)
Cos if I am setting up a blog, I shld have ppl regularly come back to visit here. (Read: I don't think I would have time to update much to interest people to revisit.)
In spite of the above, my curiosity in exploring how things might turn out not the way i expect still propels me to give a try in this online sort of diary. So that explains why u get to come to this blog!
Oh well, thanks for reading till the end of this manz.(Or did u just happen to skip to here?hmm...)
Greatly appreciated. hehz. U have just passed my first Patience Test. U are now obliged to sign up as a regular visitor of my blog. hee
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