Do you enjoy making decisions?
Well, whether you like it or not, you are doing so almost every minute of your waking life. So don't think you can avoid it simply bcos you dont like it or believe that you are incompetent in it, cos you are everyday practising it without even realising!
From choosing the time to set your alarm clock for the next morning, choosing the fastest route to get to ur destination to thinking of wat to eat for ur meal, your mind is actively processing, choosing what seems to be the best decision for you, sometimes even in the split of a second.
But why do we often find it so difficult and mind wreckin to make decisions? Bcos of external influences from friends and family, the different weightage in the pros and cons of alternatives, the possible consequences of actions etc. Another impt reason i think is the fear of regrets for the decision that has been made.
We just hate making decisions at times, don't we?
Sometimes it gets on my nerves so much that I hope there is a machine for me to press the different alternatives and help me calculate what works best for me. Or perhaps just by using a mathematical formula that can give me a straightforward exact answer with no ambiguity.
When people ask me to make unimpt decisions like where to eat or to do A or B first, as much as I don't like people to answer "anything", I do replied anything sometimes cos its rather bothersome to have to decide even on such things. So for those ppl who like to say 'anything', ok lar..I understand. (I used to be abit annoyed with such answers.) Its the feeling of really anything larh, can eat, have somewhere to go, something to do can already lor, just anything larh. But of cos it shldnt be too much until you are anything on even opinionated issues. Then you would be considered an apathetic soul.
Decisions dilemmas I think are most frequent during shopping trips. The conflict btw wasting money and perceiving the item as a worthy buy is often unavoidable for many economically challenged students like me. Ha. Looking at many of the clothes in my wardrobe, I am unpleasantly dismayed by some of the bad decisions I have made in the past! What actually was going thru my mind when I decided to buy that particular top? Oh manz. Something must be very wrong with me.
Some ppl like to toss coins to make decisions. You will never find me doing that btw. Why let chance make decisions for u? Anyway, that isnt the pt. What I want to say is that many of them actually do have already a decision in mind, but just wanna get some encouragement/reassurance from just any source. Thats why very often, those ppl even after seeing the coin result, still find themselves opposing it and following their heart ultimately. The process of coin tossing is merely a stepping stone to realizing what they actually want/desire, I thot.
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" What I want to say is that many of them actually do have already a decision in mind, but just wanna get some encouragement/reassurance from just any source. Thats why very often, those ppl even after seeing the coin result, still find themselves opposing it and following their heart ultimately. "
Agree. To me, whatever decision i make, i am gonna regret later on then let it be. Somtime the best decision that u make might not turn as what u expect, Pee happens, ya gotta roll w/z it.
If ya have been making very bad decision quite often then u shall ask ur friends's opinions. Not sure then ask till u sure loh.
Yeah, i used to just say " anything " too. That's only when i go out w/z a bunch of boring ppl. Or my mind is not there just accompany them to kill my time.
" anything loh " ( i dun't bother just follow ppl )
Used to have a date w/z a " anything " girl. I call her " anything girl " as her name till now. Man, what a boring date.
Pretty much if i ask her to b my Gf , she would say: " anything loh ".
Wanna get marry ? Anything loh.
Why dun't ya just get lost ? anything loh.
In the end, we have a quick dinner, i send her to MRT. Pretty girl w/z no brain. That night she call me back and ask what's wrong? Damn it, She doesn't even know. I tell her that i don't like the girl who just say anything. It doesn't please me. She then tell me that she is too nervous and she doesn't wanna make decision bcos she feel shy , she doesn't wanna disappoint me if she make a bad decision about where to eat. Do some girls have that kinda mental?
The way i shop is, if i eyes on sth. and i can't make any decision. I would wait another week ... and another week till i can't stand it , then i go and buy it. But most of the time i will regret later on. So now i would ask my Gf b4 i buy. If she say yes , then i will buy.
Ya know i want that kinda girl. NOt just anything loh.
I am still waiting for your answer here.Have you ever have the "decision dilemmas" of meeting me? Nota at all right? That's ok. I just hope that you can change your mind. Anyway, I am not gone with the wind. Just be right there read your post as a comfort then. No hurt feeling!
By the way, here is a joke to share, I hope you don't mind that i post here. I'll do only once ok.
Operator: "Thank you for calling Pizza Hut Geylang. May I have your..."
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>Ah Beng: "Haloo, arh...can I orler huh..."
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>Operator: "Can I have your Future Card number first, Sir?"
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>Ah Beng: "It's arh..., hold on prease, arh..... S6102-0499-54610FC"
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>Operator: "OK... you're... Tan Ah Beng alias 'Or Kwee Tao' and you're calling from 17-D Lorong 14, Geylang. Your home number is 6782 8828, your office 6782 8838 and your mobile is 96828848. Which number are you calling from now Sir?
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>Ah Beng: "Home lah! Wah Lan...How you get all my phone lumbers, arh?"
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>Operator: "We are connected to the 'FutureCard' system Sir"
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>Ah Beng: "OK lah, okay lah...Can I orler your Seafood Pisar..."
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>Operator : "That's not a good idea Sir"
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>Ah Beng: "Why....Cannot arh?"
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>Operator: "According to your latest medical records, you have high blood pressure and even higher cholesterol level Sir"
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>Ah Beng: "What?...Wah Lan!....medical lecords also hab... you lecommend lah?"
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>Operator: "Try our Low Fat Hokkien Mee Pizza. You'll like it"
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>Ah Beng: "Wah...How you know I like Hokkien mee, arh?"
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>Operator: "You borrowed a book entitled "Popular Hokkien Dishes" from the National Library last week Sir"
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>Ah Beng: "OK...OK...Buay Ta Han... I give up... Gif me three family sized ones then, how much arh?
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>Operator: "That should be enough for your family of 10, Sir. The total is $45..."
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>Ah Beng: "I pay by FutureCard...Can or Not ?"
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>Operator: "I'm afraid you have to pay us cash, Sir. Your credit card is over the limit and you're owing your bank $6720.55- since October last year"
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>Ah Beng: "Ka Nee Nah!... Everything also know...chiat lat!"
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>Operator: "That's not including the late payment charges on yourhousing loan Sir.
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>Ah Beng: "Okay lah...I run to ATM and withdraw some cash before you come my house lor"
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>Operator : "You can't Sir. Based on the records, you've reached your daily limit on machine withdrawal today....with the latest withdrawal of $250 for 4D and TOTO at 2.46pm"
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>Ah Beng: "Never mind just send the pizzas, I borrow money from my Ah Mah. How long arh?"
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>Operator: "About 45 minutes Sir, but if you can't wait you can always come and collect it on your motorcycle...it'll be ready in 15 mins and you are only 5 mins away"
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>Ah Beng: "Where got transport?"
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>Operator: "According to the details in your FutureCard", you own a Honda Scooter, ...registration number FE 3288..."
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>Ah Beng: "Ka Nee Nah!"
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>Operator : "Better watch your language Sir. Remember on 15th July 1987 you were convicted of using abusive language on a policeman... ?"
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>Ah Beng: [Speechless and calms down after being reminded of the brush with the law]
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>Operator: "Is there anything else Sir?"
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>Ah Beng: "Nothing... by the way... still got stock of that 3 free bottles of cola as advertised or not?"
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>Operator: "We normally would Sir, but based on your records you're also diabetic....... "
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>Ah Beng: [Heard cursing away as he slams down the phone and telling his family he is going to the Hawker Centre to 'Tar Pow']
Wow, this is way too much man. I read from the last post, this particular guy declare his love. Now he add the joke. Dude, ur joke is funny but did u ask her permission? What the hell do u think? If she doesn't wanna meet u, it's so obvious that she is not interested in u. Get a life man. Man, She is not the only one for u. She has way so many admirers ( that's what i heard ) What do u think she will consider u?
I dun't mind u keep on asking her. Do it properly man. Get her cell no. or email or sth. Not here. I wanna read sth. relate to what she post. Not ur craps or proposer.
I hope u really understand how ppl feel ok? Chill out man!
Thx for the joke : )
SS
..was wonderin who u ppl are, passerbys i presume..
..joke.. ?!...
for me, i usually state a preference, followed by saying 'actually anything larh'. Clara, my good fren, obviously has this same habit as me! ;p A typical eg of our conversation in deciding where to eat sometimes will be like "I actually feel like eating Yoshi, but actually anything larh, foodcourt also can lor. The other of us will reply, " I don't feel like eating Yoshi, but if want also can larh. aiyar, anything lor"
haz, think this merely shows a way of us compromising as we know any of the alternatives gonna do us fine in the end anyway. :>
yes, a fren's opinions during shopping often influence how u initially think. wonder that is good or bad. haz.
they either support or contradict u. but still, two heads are always better than one. :)
Totally agree.
Always follow your heart lah. If your heart is uncertain then get friends to help you make decision.
Nice blog! will add you.
Have a good day!!! Cia You Gin.
I guess u getting more popular.
I sometime come to read ur blog as i know u.
Anyway, nice blog unlike other full of photos, stupid love, and daily report.
I am here to support u man. Take care. And make a good decision.
SS
life can be simple.. or.. complicated. :)
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