This term usually applies to friends of the oppt sex. It means a relationship that involves no sexual love. We always hear ppl 'debating' abt whether platonic frenship is really possible between a guy and a girl. There are even surveys that go around asking guys whether they have ever fantasize abt making intimate contact with their gal frens or not. You will be surprised by the high percentage of guys who confessed that they did!
A pretty fren of mine told me that it was difficult for her to make male frens after she is attached. Her previous male frens also drifted away from her. She felt lonelier than when she was unattached. Why should this happen? She really just want to establish a casual frenship with guys but guys want to know her for some other reasons.
Another fren claimed that she and a guy are just 'frens' when they actually do certain things that they shouldn't. Is such a frenship as pure/platonic as what it is supposed to be?
In many cases (of cos not all), it is often some initial attraction between a girl and a guy that pull them together as more than just normal frens. Subsequently when they bcum even closer frens, they will be subjected to teasing or questioning by the people around them. Such reactions from others seem to imply that ppl don't normally believe in platonic frenship between a guy and a girl. What do you think?
It's amazing that the mere biological differences between a guy and a girl can influence the nature of a frenship. I ever asked b4 a few of my frens whether they are conscious and aware of the gender of their frens when interacting with them or they treat frens in the same way, regardless of their gender. They told me that they are aware of the gender, which implies that the nature of the interaction will therefore in a way be influenced by this form of awareness. In simpler terms, they treat guy and girl frens differently. They have reservations when interacting with frens of the oppt sex maybe fear of misleading or wateva other reasons.
By right if people really do believe in platonic frenship, they should be less conscious of the gender of their frens. The fact that they are conscious of how they should interact with a particular gendered fren imply to me that a oppt-sex frenship just couldnt hold as much of the same level as a same-sex frenship.
My take is that platonic frenship between a guy and a girl is possible but it will inevitably takes on a different mode from a same-sex frenship simply due to the inherent gender differences in a guy and a girl.
So 3 cheers to platonic frenship!
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As long as one party falls for the other, the friendship is no longer platonic..."just friends" don't equate to platonic friendships... we can fall for our friends but no special feelings are involved in platonic friendships...To me, as long as no love or like feeling is involved, that's platonic friendship....
There was once a platonic friendship that eventually evolved into un-platonic..haha..but now, since we've already put the past behind us and the past feelings have dissolved, it will always remain as platonic... = )
I believe platonic friendship do exist... It's just purely friendship between the guy n the gal...Just like me n some of my guy friends...we know we aren't suitable for each other and we just clicked as best friends...We already have our own targets in mind...heez..in fact i'm helping them at times... =P
Cheers to platonic friendships!
Poohbear Yoke
To gers, they always believe in platonic friendship, but to guys such thing doesn't exist. Guys and gers work differently. They think differently, react to things differently and behave differently. How do two guys become best of frens? They talk openly and rudely and do stupid things that only people of our same species can comprehend. Why do gers become so close? They talk about clothes, feelings, relationships and how to be nice to one another and blah blah. So how can it be possible for two people of the opp sex to be best of frens without the slightest thought of physical or emotional attraction, when they so obviously have different mentality, outlook and behaviour? Unless a homosexual is involved, or we treat each other as siblings.
Can a platonic friend ever come between a couple. My boyfriend seems to be more interested in his "platonic" friend, then in my feelings. She goes over to his places once a week and visits for 4 or 5 hours. I feel very insecure. My boyfriend says she's just a friend, he doesn't find her attractive. He's known her for 20 years and l've been seeing him for 5 but it's just been the last year that she COME OVER. i THINK ITS LOVE ON HIS PART . lOVE FOR HER. aNY ADVISE.
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