The complexity of human emotions

Being able to feel is a double-edged sword.
We can feel happiness, excitement, anticipation. At the same time, we are subjected to the hell of emotions like anger, anguish, anxiety and sorrow.

As much as we try to find ways to curb negative emotions from bombarding our heart and soul, their entry is often inevitable and their effects formidable. In short, we are the victims of our very own emotions. Do you agree?

I realize there is absolutely no end to life's worries and frustrations. They come in series and waves, one after another, sometimes gentle mild waves, at times big and strong tides.

The once young and naive me used to believe that life's worries will come to an end when my major exams are over and done with and only then, I will be able to retrieve back my joyful and carefree smile and start to be truly happy after that. But hard facts of reality then strike me the point that there is actuali no end to life's worries...new ones will keep coming up after old ones get resolved...

Or just like when you finally gain friendship or love from someone, your next new worry might be the fear of losing them one day....

Somehow, the only way to maintan a certain level of peace and harmony in oneself is to face life's troubles with an optimistic view and an appropriate learning attitude since there is no way of avoiding it. Easier said than done, issit what you want to say again?

Nonetheless, I have always been pondering whether

we humans are really victims of our own emotions or are there ways to manage our emotions effectively?

Of cos, I would like to believe in the latter and I have been experimenting with my own emotions from then and now to see whether I have the ability to gain control over it. Here is my summarized finding:

Hypothesis: I can control how I want to feel.

Method: In my own privacy, whenever I feel the impending negative emotions on their way to harass me, I would keep talking to myself to implant appropriate thoughts in me. This is to trigger corresponding emotions in replacement of unwanted ones.

Results: It is possible, but only to a certain extent. It is easy to get back to square one if you slack in your efforts in trying to control them. You need to consciously monitor your emotions and be aware of how they are affecting you subconsciously and tackle them actively.

Limitations: Same method used in different circumstances give different results.

Weird experimentation? Well its just my desire in wanting to feel right in order to feel good.

Ppl always say follow your heart, let your emotions flow freely etc. Being able to feel is what makes us humans, afterall...

My added words of advice: Just dun lose yourself in the process of it, it's important.