Ever since the last movie outing to watch Titanic together many years back, my family of 4 managed to find time today to watch a movie together. It was my mum's strong recommendation of a Li Lian Jie's supposedly last movie that he will act in. It's called Huo Yuan Jia. With no expectations of any sort, I leave the movie theatre with much satisfaction and inspiration. I find it a meaningful show which teaches and educates the essence of mercy and kindness, the real purpose and beauty of chinese martial arts. I also wish I had been more interested in the rich ancient history of the Chinese in my past years of education as that certainly would help me to appreciate this movie even more.
My sister used to nonsensically say that if she has a child she wanna raise him till 10 yrs old and kill him after that cos children are only cute when they are young. Once they grow up, have their own set of thinking and no longer want to listen to you, they becum devillish and no longer cute in personality or looks. Today at reunion dinner, I saw how my teenage cousin speaks and argue in defence of her religion against her father and other relative who are very much against it. She is really an angry young lady who can be seen prepared to talk back at anyone who attempt to want to talk sense into her. Partly because of this, she has not been talking to her father for the past 3 yrs or so and both have been seen to be at loggerheads till now. I was browsing some photo albums and saw the photographs of my cousin back then when she was still young and little. And the many happy photos of her taken with her father (which is my uncle). I can't help but feel sorry for my uncle. I don't think he will feel good looking at those photographs when the reality now isn't predictive of the past. My mother always cautions that once the parent does not show the effort in wanting to pull back the child by his side, he might suffer the risk of losing her forever, emotionally and physically.
I can attest for her belief in saying that as I can recall how my parents have been re-accepting my sister after each and every upheaval that has no doubt placed alot of emotional stress on them. Despite all the previous episodes of discontent, my parents have showed tolerance and magnanimity towards some of her previous rebellious actions and decisions. For some of you who may not have all nice and good parents to speak of, I probably can make use of what Huo Yuan Jia said in the movie, that is, life may be unfair for he cannot choose how he starts off with his life, but he certainly has the power in how he wants to live and end it. We can't choose our parents that is no doubt. If yours aren't the ideal one that you would like to have, rem that they are not born to know how to be good parents as well. Perhaps they are still learning how to be one, through mistakes and experiences, though at the expense of your happiness. Give them the forgiveness that they deserve as afterall they are the ones who brought you into this world of heaven and most probably in times of dire needs, they will be the ones whom I forsee will not discard you for watsoever reason. If that is not possible, why not just forget the hatred altogether and lead a life better than what it should have been in the first place? At least you will be doing justice for yourself and having compensated for the unfairness in not getting to choose your own parents at the very start.
Anyway Happy Lunar New Year to all! It's the time for the hardly meet family members to get together again despite how dreadful it can get also! But for the sake of the angpaos...why dread? hehaz.....
Saturday, January 28, 2006
Friday, January 13, 2006
Having penis envy.............................??
Being a female,
1. you suffer higher risk of additional complicated disorders due to your gender-specific organs and hormones.
- certain health insurance premiums cost much higher for females than for males bcos of their higher risks!
- this is also in the perspective of Chinese physicians.
2. you bear the pains and discomfort and inconvenience of your menses that come every month without fail.
- call it lucky if there is a miss of its occurence in some months but to general practitioners, it is considered irregularity and should be taken note of.]
- even heard from a certain religion that this is actually a punishment or some sort of a curse that is cast on females....Ridiculous!
3. you bear high parental investment of child making, not forgetting post-natal syndromes and the amount of time to breastfeed your baby and the long wait to hopefully recover back your original figure, only if you are lucky that is.
[not everyone can be like wong lilin or zoe tay, mind you.]
4. being objectified as symbols of sex, you bear the life-long threat of being sexually assaulted by lusty young/old male strangers anywhere possible, regardless of your age, may be when you go out alone at nite, solo backpacking etc. And don't forget, if you are unlucky,...(see point 3). And how convenient/unfair can it be, for the sperm donors walk free.
- i've heard it's very much harder for females to rape males if you know wat I mean? thats y since evolution, females are mostly victims rather than perpetrators.
- domestic helpers also are potential victims if met with beastly employers
- bet you read about molestation cases in crowded areas in festive seasons by both local and foreign male workers
- no wonder my mother say the only solution is to have all guilty males sterilized/castrated!
- see that emperors in the ancient dynasty already saw this sexual threat of males, if not y keepers are made eunuchs!
5.young girls in some countries are prone to child prostitution and suffer the eventual risk of getting Aids and die.
-look at the abundance of Singaporean uncles flocking to Batam for cheap sex and thrill.
6. women age faster on physical appearance and face greater pressure for the need to maintain their looks, skin, hair and figure in the society and media. Expenses self-absorbed.
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An irony
As females strive to gain equal status, respect and power as males in the society, they are actually holding additional baggages to their already loaded chores. This is evident from realistic examples of the difficulty faced by many women who have to work and cook and wash and do household chores and childcare when they finally get home to supposedly 'rest'. Though husbands now help out more nowadays, women generally are still seen and expected to be the gender more suited for housemaking despite them having to face additional responsibilities of having a career just like the men as well. Isnt this double-standard thinking?
Call me biased towards my own gender, wateva... of cos I am more inclined to write on mine!
Probably you will say that in general females already gain alot from the social privileges of getting 'ladies first' and being walked home and protected by their guyfriends and stuff.
Yah right....if not for the extra liabilities faced by females as stated above!
Don't tell me abt army training that guys need to undergo and girls don't have. For goodness sake guys, that is for your own overall benefit! Wats more, you get paid to be trained and lets not forget the important techinical skills and brotherhood fun you must have gained along the way. Furthermore, job applicants who have served NS for a more politically correct term to speak of, enjoy higher gross salary in various job postings. What's more is there to be said?
With the above, it is thus no surprise to me when I heard from girls that they would want to give birth to boys when they are mothers! hah.
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Clarification
Penis Envy - a term generated by a psychologist to theorize that young girls have this fantasy of having a penis like the boys.
I can't agree more with Karen Horney who rebuke that girls dun envy the penis per se but rather they see it as a symbol of social status that males generally enjoy in the society at that time!!
P/S: btw pls don't get the idea that I hate myself cos of my own gender. ^-^
1. you suffer higher risk of additional complicated disorders due to your gender-specific organs and hormones.
- certain health insurance premiums cost much higher for females than for males bcos of their higher risks!
- this is also in the perspective of Chinese physicians.
2. you bear the pains and discomfort and inconvenience of your menses that come every month without fail.
- call it lucky if there is a miss of its occurence in some months but to general practitioners, it is considered irregularity and should be taken note of.]
- even heard from a certain religion that this is actually a punishment or some sort of a curse that is cast on females....Ridiculous!
3. you bear high parental investment of child making, not forgetting post-natal syndromes and the amount of time to breastfeed your baby and the long wait to hopefully recover back your original figure, only if you are lucky that is.
[not everyone can be like wong lilin or zoe tay, mind you.]
4. being objectified as symbols of sex, you bear the life-long threat of being sexually assaulted by lusty young/old male strangers anywhere possible, regardless of your age, may be when you go out alone at nite, solo backpacking etc. And don't forget, if you are unlucky,...(see point 3). And how convenient/unfair can it be, for the sperm donors walk free.
- i've heard it's very much harder for females to rape males if you know wat I mean? thats y since evolution, females are mostly victims rather than perpetrators.
- domestic helpers also are potential victims if met with beastly employers
- bet you read about molestation cases in crowded areas in festive seasons by both local and foreign male workers
- no wonder my mother say the only solution is to have all guilty males sterilized/castrated!
- see that emperors in the ancient dynasty already saw this sexual threat of males, if not y keepers are made eunuchs!
5.young girls in some countries are prone to child prostitution and suffer the eventual risk of getting Aids and die.
-look at the abundance of Singaporean uncles flocking to Batam for cheap sex and thrill.
6. women age faster on physical appearance and face greater pressure for the need to maintain their looks, skin, hair and figure in the society and media. Expenses self-absorbed.
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An irony
As females strive to gain equal status, respect and power as males in the society, they are actually holding additional baggages to their already loaded chores. This is evident from realistic examples of the difficulty faced by many women who have to work and cook and wash and do household chores and childcare when they finally get home to supposedly 'rest'. Though husbands now help out more nowadays, women generally are still seen and expected to be the gender more suited for housemaking despite them having to face additional responsibilities of having a career just like the men as well. Isnt this double-standard thinking?
Call me biased towards my own gender, wateva... of cos I am more inclined to write on mine!
Probably you will say that in general females already gain alot from the social privileges of getting 'ladies first' and being walked home and protected by their guyfriends and stuff.
Yah right....if not for the extra liabilities faced by females as stated above!
Don't tell me abt army training that guys need to undergo and girls don't have. For goodness sake guys, that is for your own overall benefit! Wats more, you get paid to be trained and lets not forget the important techinical skills and brotherhood fun you must have gained along the way. Furthermore, job applicants who have served NS for a more politically correct term to speak of, enjoy higher gross salary in various job postings. What's more is there to be said?
With the above, it is thus no surprise to me when I heard from girls that they would want to give birth to boys when they are mothers! hah.
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Clarification
Penis Envy - a term generated by a psychologist to theorize that young girls have this fantasy of having a penis like the boys.
I can't agree more with Karen Horney who rebuke that girls dun envy the penis per se but rather they see it as a symbol of social status that males generally enjoy in the society at that time!!
P/S: btw pls don't get the idea that I hate myself cos of my own gender. ^-^
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